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“Our language has wisely sensed the two sides of being alone. It has created the word loneliness to express the pain of being alone. And it has created the word solitude to express the glory of being alone” Paul Tillich, American-German philosopher.
Up until recent times, preferring one’s own company, or rather the peace of solitude, has been somewhat of a taboo subject. It is assumed that you must be lonely or some sort of social oddity, but that is definitely not the case.
There is, in my opinion, no greater feeling than spending time by oneself. From being able to travel the world freely to being able to enjoy a glass of wine whilst sat people watching outside a café, solitude is indeed one of life’s great pleasures. The need to rely on other people for happiness is totally removed, and is replaced by a deep sense of joy. You can come and go as you please; whether it be a day sightseeing around a foreign city or staying inside and reading, the key to solitude is that it offers you total freedom. You do not have to wait around for anyone else, or spend your time compromising and feeling resentful that you are not free to do what it is you want to do.
Of course, you will always encounter people who wax lyrical about being in a couple, sharing absolutely everything together. However, just watch how they change when their partner is away; they do what they really want to do and actually start to experience the pleasure that solitude brings. Until you have experienced this, you can not be entirely sure of your inner desires and needs. Time spent alone, reflecting and pondering, are vital for personal development. You have a greater sense of yourself and of the need to have space in all personal relationships for them to flourish. So the next time you see that person sat alone outside a European café or sat beside a river, don’t assume they’re lonely. They are the most contented person in the world at that very moment.